Posted by: vedderlover216 on: May 27, 2009
yes, I have 3 children. My son who is 17 has autism and cannot speak. My oldest daughter, a girl lost all of her children due to drug addiction. My other daughter is raising three of her girls. I will call them daughter 1 and daughter 2.
Daughter 1 is an untreated bipolar. She uses drugs on a regular basis. We are not in touch very often. She is 38 years old.
Daughter 2 is married and raising daughter1’s 3 children. I know it’s a lot of hard work. A lot of money and she suffers from depression on top of it. Her husband helps a LOT. He is an easy going person most of the time. One thing about him is he goes with the flow………if she and I aren’t speaking , then HE doesn’t speak to me either. Sometimes I feel he is a bad example as far as teaching the grand kids how to respect me. He doesn’t teach them to respect me. He “jokes” around too much and my feelings get hurt, I don’t like it in front of the kids. (they think it’s funny) I have mentioned this to daughter 2 but she shrugs it of as I don’t know how to take a joke. This isn’t true as I have a great sense of humor. What I don’t know how to do is be the BRUNT of the joke too often.
Daughter 2 and I argue often. There was a time she didn’t speak to me for 4 months. It was over my granddaughter’s birthday party. I was not invited! This hurt me deeply.She invited the rest of the family, but not me or her brother.
WHen I am around her I feel tension. She doesn’t act like she likes me much.
Posted by: vedderlover216 on: March 8, 2009
what a title! The time “sprung foward” at 2:00 Am today. So we all lose the hour we gained in the fall. Now it will stay daylight later. Not really sure what the point of it is.
If anyone is reading this you may be wondering what “Vedderlover216″ is about. I am a hard core Pearl Jam fan. I buy all the music and see them when they come to town. Last time I saw them was in 2006. What a show! I felt like I was 18 again. It was great. There were many people there who were my age. I would say there was every age there to see this great band from teen and up. Eddie Vedder is so deep, such a great songwriter and need I tell you he is gorgeous? But all the band members make up Pearl Jam. They are just a great group of talented guys.
I like this blog. It makes me feel not so alone in the world.. When I want tot say soemthing I just come here and type. I get very lonely. Since my son is non verbal, there is no one to talk to in my apt. I talk on the phone but it just is not the same as looking into someone’s face and knowing they are there. I am constantly asking my daughter to come over and spend time here but she is too busy. I do see my 3 granddaughters a lot. They have kept me company and helped me more than anyone. I forget how lonely I am when they are here because they keep me on my toes. I am sure they get bored and I eel this constant need to keep them entertained but Thank God Lane found a friend next door, Abby. They play together when weather permits. They get along really well. Lane is 9 years old. She is my youngest granddaughter.
Posted by: vedderlover216 on: March 8, 2009
Well, Needless to say after suffering through so much, I filed for divorce. It is not final yet but I want this nighmare to be over.
I want to live in peace with my son. My son is a wonderful kid! It;s been a struggle since my son’s autism is severe. He doesn’t speak but I usually know what he wants. I love my son very much. We have a YMCA membership and he LOVES to swim, we go there a lot.
He is a great swimmer too by the way :0)
I also have 2 little dogs that I love dearly. They have been with me through thick and thin. One is a long haired Chihuahua and the other is half poodle and half Chihuahua. I love animals. If I were to win the lottery I would open a non kill shelter for neglected animals. I would love living where I could have more animals, maybe even a horse. i don’t see that in my future but it is nice to dream!
Posted by: vedderlover216 on: March 8, 2009
I married my husband in 2001, we had a great beginning. I knew he had a drinking problem IN THE PAST, he had went through treatment, etc. I had no idea how bad the disease of alcoholism could get. I myself have been a sober member of AA for many many years, yet I had never seen anything like this. Alcoholism destroyed everything we had and it finally took our marriage. Oh he had years where he wouldn’t drink, but he wouldn’t go to AA either. I love AA and could not understand his resistance to it. I do now.
AA deals with feelings and change. It’s also a very social group of people. My husband was NOT a social person, he had no friends. Not one. His co workers liked him, but he never struck up any real friendships. I thought that was kind of weird.
He went through many jobs until he could no longer work. All he could do was drink. By 7:00AM, he was drunk. I had never dealt with anything like this before and I had no idea what to do. The bills were piling up and he was not working, he was drunk 24/7. I knew we were on the verge of losing our home. I was terrified. He was in and out of jail and in and out of court. He got a DUI. I bailed him out more then once, only to hear him promise he would never drink again and sadly, I believed him. I watched him go through DT’s…it was hard to watch. He refused treatment. He finally went into a 3 day detox program, I held out hope for a new beginning. the morning of his release I was so excited! He was to be released at 9AM and was taking a bus home. I waited and waited…..at 7:00 PM that evening he showed up, he never made it to the front door. He passed out on the lawn.
I think I just set up a blog. Not sure exactly how to find my way around but hopefully I will learn!
About me, well, I am female, I live in Ohio and I am 54 years old.
My grammar isn’t the best so if you are looking for someone who got straight A’s in English, look elsewhere.
I set this up to blog my thoughts, plans, dreams, expectations and fears.
I have 3 children. 2 grown daughters and a 17 year old son.
I have 6 grandchildren.
I filed for divorce on January 12, 2009. This was my 3rd marriage.
My soon to be EX is an alcoholic and a bad one at that.
We lost our home due to his drinking. My son and I now live in a small apartment in a part f town that I am not wild about.
I loved that house. It was in a great neighborhood.
I also lost my car (a mustang)
My son and I were without ANY car for a year. It was horrible.
When I moved into this apt. with no transportation (there isn’t any public transportation in this small town) I had no idea how I would get around. One of my daughters lives 6 miles away but after the move we were not really speaking and I knew no one. My parents are both dead and I had no friends in this town. I bought many groceries at the neighborhood drug store for several weeks.It was within walking distance. Money was tight and the drug store was rather costly but I no other choice. There were many times I weighed the cost of taking a cab verses shopping at the drug store. I took the cab a few times.
